Trust is a core currency of any relationship. Sometimes our need to control and micromanage everything erodes our confidence in ourselves and others. The truth: People are much more capable than we think. A hearty dose of trust is often what’s needed to unlock the magic. Go ahead, have faith.Kris Carr
Will This Performance Never End?
When you are with other people, do you find yourself behaving in ways that make you cringe? This isn’t just about your business or your work…this is about human interaction in general. It’s almost as though we really are actors on a stage playing our parts written by someone else. We want to play the part from our own authentic place, but find it next to impossible to extricate ourselves without getting booted off the stage.
What is Leading From Purpose? What is Conscious Leadership?
At first, when people ask me what Leading From Purpose means, I say something like, “It means that you are living from an energy-neutral or energy-positive place. You are focused on the outcomes and solutions, not on what you can get from something or someone.” When that draws a blank, I switch gears to, “It means that you are not being a douchebag or a power-trippy control freak.” The light bulb turns on. “Ohhh…so what does that have to do with energy?”
There is more to this than meets the eye. Conscious Leadership involves self-awareness, excavation of what makes you tick and what stops you from ticking. It involves taking a good look at your personal history and how that has affected the ways in which you unconsciously manipulate for control and power as well as recognizing how others unconsciously manipulate for control and power.
Leading From Purpose is knowing yourself and how your energy affects others. It is knowing the different layers of leadership you can access as extensions of your core personality as well as discernment in when to use them. It is being conscious of your purpose in the context of your life and within the different roles you play. It is awareness of when and how to recharge your own batteries.
Leading From Purpose is mindfulness in action.
An Exercise in Energetic Discernment
Try this tomorrow: For the whole day, pay attention to your interactions with everyone who crosses your path.
At the end of, or even throughout the day, make notes on how you felt with each person. Did you feel:
- Intimidated, as though there was an obvious or underlying threat?
- Undermined, as though you were doing something wrong, or as though there is something wrong about you?
- Sucked In, as though you were pulling teeth to get the simplest response or information?
- Guilty, as though you felt personally responsible for someone else’s outcomes, that you couldn’t do enough?
Leave a comment on how that went for you.
This is just a tiny taste of what we explore in Leading From Purpose: A Road Map to Conscious Leadership. To learn more, and to be notified of workshop series launch dates, click through below and sign up for the mailing list.